2:35:08 Even the Liddy Square. It's called an outhouse. To poop in. Then you go in the backyard. Okay, I have a series of clips on incels. Oh, all right. Which became a topic of conversation on one of the networks. I remember it well. And this is called Black Pill. And I got just a bunch of clips and if you want to hear them and talk about this because I think this is bogus. They make it sound as though it's a club. I'm going to a book now, it's just been published, it's called Black Pill. Wait, is this the BBC World Service? I won't do the jingle. Yes, it's the BBC. I won't do the jingle. And it looks at the incel, by which I mean involuntary celibates movement and draws on interviews with incels around the western world. It's a movement, yeah. The movement should check out the new smart toilet from Kohler. It's been written by Maeve Park.
2:35:59 And the idea is to help explain incels and the culture that creates them and what they believe. I spoke to Maeve Park earlier and asked, first of all, just to do a definition of terms, as it were, what does the title Black-Pilled mean and how does she define the term incel? The term blackpilled is the name of the ideology we're seeing subscribed to in cells. It's a nihilistic worldview with misogyny as well and the term in cell literally means involuntary celibate. However, the term is used within this group of people mostly congregating online who subscribed to the beliefs of the blackpill so they can believe in the nihilistic version of life or the misogynistic
2:36:41 wrapped into one kind of ideological worldview. Very bleak, very much about men being suppressed and very much about if you're not attractive enough, your hope in life is you don't really have a lot of hope in life. So kind of a fatalistic, catastrophic, nihilistic worldview with misogyny very much attached into it as well. Okay, hold on a second. So you have Five clips from the BBC about Blackpill, yet they can't fill three clips with any information about Turkey? Turkey A. Turkey A? They can't even pronounce it right. I'm very familiar with Blackpill. This has been a term that's been around. I'm unfamiliar with all this. Well, you should ask the kids at the table. They're all married. I mean, I don't think any Blackpillers are around.
2:37:30 You have to have a black pillar in the family it seems to me. Well there's this is a real thing I'd never really heard about how it was filled with misogyny though that's that's an interesting take so I'm excited to hear the rest of your series. I think I've heard that part. Because these guys, you know, they can't get a date, they can't look a girl in the eye. But Blackpill is not necessarily incel. Blackpill is you see no future for the world and you're just... Well, according to this woman, Blackpill is incels. So age isn't part of the definition? No, age is not part of the definition. In the online world for incels, they actually tend to be in their mid-20s and they tend to kind of start around 19 and the oldest incels I've come across online would be in their mid-30s. So there is a kind of a broad age group there as well. And the basic idea is they've never found a girlfriend and they blame the world for
2:38:26 This is the second time this guy's done that. And I don't know that it's part of the British accent, I've never noticed this before, but he did it the first clip, he's done it again. What did he do? He says, idea. Oh yeah, that's a very, you know, that's a New England thing too. My mom would say idea. What's the idea? It is a derivative, it is a British thing, idea. There's no R in idea. But BBC also can't seem to say Turkey yay, so. And the basic idea is they've never found a girlfriend and they blame the world for that. Yeah, basic idea is that, yeah, that is true. Yes, they believe that because they haven't had any romantic partners or even gone on dates or had any success
2:39:13 in that kind of arena, that they feel that there's something either very much wrong with them or wrong with society and they're kind of taking that out in a very much a resentment-billed ideology and a very kind of fatalistic manner as well. And that can get violent? We have seen violence coming from this kind of ideology in this worldview and we've seen some mass shootings and mass homicide coming from it. One of the earliest mass shootings was in the 2014, the Isla Vista shooting in California. carried out by a young man called Elliot Roger. He was 21 at the time and he shot and killed six people including himself. And then from that we've also seen other types of violence coming out of the world view as well. We've seen sexual harassment, stalking, abuse, abuse online and there has been a wide variety of harms coming out. And then some of the violence that we're seeing is also suicide as well.
2:40:08 Well, this is no laughing matter and there's a lot of data to back up this problem that young men have a very hard time finding a mate, just someone to date, mainly because... Can I... Yes? Well, you would say what you think is mainly because, because I have a mainly because. Well, the problem is from two sides. On the female side, many young girls are only interested in a very successful, they want influencers, they want money, you gotta have money, you gotta show cash, you gotta have money. And I'm generalizing, but I think it's true in general.
2:40:49 On the young men's side, there's no place for them to go meet girls, so it's only online. And the only online experience they have is an overabundance of porn. So when they finally meet or have a date, all they can think about is porn. And I was talking to the barista here at Java Ranch, nice girl. She says, Adam, I can't, you know, these are all young kids. I can't find a man to date. And I said, well, what do you mean? When you meet them, this is horrible. All they want is one thing and it's all like aggressive and it's just it's horrible. So that's what's going on here. I don't think so. OK. I mean, I think that's that is the result of the real problem. OK. When I was a kid. Here we go. Yeah. Here we go. Yes.
2:41:39 When I was a kid in the second grade, the third grade, the fourth grade, even the first grade I think, we were forced to learn different dances. We had to dance with girls. Yes. We were dancing the cha-cha, they would teach us the cha-cha-cha, the rumba, every stupid dance imaginable and you had to dance. And square dancing was also a big thing, you had to learn how to do that. And so by the time you're in the sixth grade, you knew how to at least, you know, step around and you were handling girls because you had to dance with girls. You weren't dancing with guys. And so, and there was always a class that was about half and half. So you'd get a, you know, and you'd switch partners and you'd always, you'd be very familiarized. And then by the time he got to high school, they had the sock hop, which I bitch about and moan and groan about constantly. This is another old thing that's long gone. And the reason for the sock hop was in the gym and he had to wear socks because they didn't want to scratch up the gym floor as a reason for being socks. But they had all these dances and people would stand around and then they picked
2:42:38 There was forced socialization at the school level when you're a little kid that has disappeared. That is causing all the rest of it. That was John C. DeVorex. Boomer Update. Yeah. Well, there was also something called cotillion. That was more a southern thing, I think. Cotillion. Yep. Same idea. I think you are absolutely right. Now, you have to add to that that the schools have become exactly the opposite. Oh, oh no, you know, you have to ask permission and you can't look at anyone and it's toxic masculinity and the whole society... You're right, society is screwed. You're right. You're right.
2:43:28 And so these boys, they fall into a black hole of gaming and if they're unlucky they get hypnotized into trans stuff, which was covered on the show, and they go all goth and then they turn into women. It's the whole thing. We're doomed. People were doomed. Go to school and get your dance on. Yeah, the homeschooling doesn't do this, the forced socialization quite like real school used to do, but they don't do it anymore so you might as well homeschool. Let's go to clip three. Now one of the striking things seeing your book was that the people you interviewed were UK, this is where they were, UK, Canada, USA, Australia, France, Germany. Is this a Western phenomenon?
2:44:15 It's not a Western phenomenon, but I was going, I was researching the Anglosphere in cell communities, which was an interesting finding to see that there were people who came from non-English speaking countries taking part in the English speaking in cell communities. However, we have discovered that there are non-English in cell communities. communities. There are French communities, there are Indian communities, there are South Korean. It spans the world. And now we're seeing even some African communities coming up. So it's not just a Western problem or a Western issue, but we are seeing maybe the Western Insel communities being, they're probably the older communities. They have a lot more of the worldview established
2:44:52 and they really resonate around the media messages of the West, mostly coming from an American kind of media culture. You know, it's not just from your generation, but when I was growing up at the Dorpshaus, I grew up in a small village south of Amsterdam, we had a like a little community, what do you call that? Yeah, where the community comes together as a whole. What do you call it? Community? When I was a... Back to you. Just to back that up. We had a boys girls club kind of thing. It was called the Community Center. It was in Newark. And the Community Center would have these dances every Friday and Saturday when you're in grammar school. Well, what happened? And they had other situations. There was the... They were dancing with
2:45:39 Forced dancing because it was a socialization thing And I would say it's forced. Forced dancing, we never had incels. We didn't have the idea of somebody living with their parents until they're in their 30s because they can't get a date. I mean, this is all new and it has a lot to do with the lack of socialization as a young adult, as a young, no, not young adult, a kid. Well, I was going to add to that that we had once a year there was dance lessons. And everybody would sign up for dance lessons. And you'd all go there and that was a version, it wasn't school organized, but it was village organized. Like, hey, let's sign up for dance lessons. And everybody did it. You didn't want to be the schmuck that didn't go. And no one could dance. That's why you went to dance lessons. And it was the same thing. And of course I didn't go to dance lessons and I became an incel. But then I got on the radio and things changed. You've been married three times. You're not an incel.
2:46:47 Wow, you had to go there. Onward! So do you think this is one of those things that's happening because of the internet? You know, these people like this have always existed, but they've been isolated and now they're not, they're part of a group. I would say yes, that is definitely true and that is why we're seeing kind of a community build around people who couldn't find community. I often say that the incels online are the most exclusive club in a very strange way. They're very clear about who is incel, who is not incel. and who would fit in their criteria. However, they are all a bunch of people who did not find community outside of these groups. So, in a strange way, they are the outsiders now building a group for themselves online. However, as you said, yes, there have always been people who have been left out, ostracized. And in cells, not all of them would be misogynistic, not all of them would be violent, many of them are nihilistic.
2:47:38 very much self-hating and would not take their vengeance or resentment out on others. But yes, the internet has allowed for this kind of ideologies to spread around and people who may not have found these ideologies before to find them and that's what we're seeing with the internet. You've used the term nihilistic quite a lot. So can you just talk us through that? When you interview one of these young men, how does that manifest itself, that nihilism? Very much a feeling that nothing will ever work out for me, that there is no hope for me, that I may as well drop out of society, meaning if you're young, dropping out of university, dropping out of school, not attempting to find a job, not leaving your house.
2:48:18 not going outside or having any conversations with anyone, becoming very reclusive and feeling like that is your kind of fate at a very young age which is very difficult but also very damaging for their life, for their sense of well-being. I've met many people in their mid-30s who have gone through that in their early 20s and are now kind of seeing the impact of that where they have no social circle They have no financial they have no ability to get a job a salary and so their their situation has become very bleak They can always and they can always become artists for the no agenda show again We have that no explanation for any of this is just a phenomenon Which is again, which is your complaint about the BBC from the earlier clips? Yeah, but but you know, you didn't have to stretch it out for eight minutes and
2:49:12 I'm sorry, but we're gonna wrap it now. So you can complain later. There's no complaining. Let's hold hands and share a secret. It's a self-fulfilling prophecy in many ways. And very damaging for young people getting involved in that for that reason as well. Always male or sometimes female incels? Interestingly enough there are some women incels. There's a group called femme cels. However, there are not as many of them and incel, the term incel is only male. So only men can call themselves incels according to the communities and according to the people online who define themselves as incel because the outgroup for incels are women. So the resentment is there around women and so that's why it's important for them to keep that in only men as well. You've described
2:50:03 that this is a sort of self-fulfilling prophecy and people in their mid-30s can get into a very bad situation because they've had this thinking in their 20s. Are there people who are incels who get out of it, you know, and they find relationships and they move on? Oh yeah, well that's always the hope and I speak about it in the book how a couple of the interviewees I met, so I was interviewing them for over a year, and during that time a couple of them found ways out of the ideology or out of their situation One of the best success stories was a man in his later 20s returning to university after initially dropping out in his early 30s in the UK. And that has kind of given him a new lease in life, a new goal, a new feeling of self-esteem. And he's having a good time enjoying it and finding people through it as well. So that was a success story in itself. Other times, some incels can just leave because they find potentially a partner or friendships
2:50:58 But we have to be very careful about when we talk about whether a relationship is your way out. A lot of incels will believe, if I find a girlfriend, I'll leave the ideology. But the evidence is showing that sometimes when that happens, the ideology doesn't go away. You don't become less misogynistic or less nihilistic just because you have a date or had a short term relationship or a girlfriend. That doesn't solve the problem. Well, I think this is self-correcting. We're seeing it already. I mean, this is really a millennial problem. Sorry, gens, yeah, no millennial problem. Younger millennial problem. The older millennials were just close enough to Gen X that they kind of, you know, they got a clue.
2:51:39 And I'm seeing Gen Z. Gen Z is kind of rebelling against technology, rebelling a bit against the phone stuff. They're playing chess, they're going out, they're doing other things. They are getting together in groups. I think it's self-correcting. It just gives the BBC another opportunity to fill 10 minutes of airtime with dreck. Dreck. It might be self-correcting, but the problem still exists that the schools are not doing their jobs of socializing the kids properly. And until they start doing that, which you're not going to do the way they're going about things. No, but the schools are complicit in transing children and putting odd
2:52:18 books in the library and then highlighting it by putting right lock and key. The schools are the problem. Always. The schools are the problem. There it is. And that's why we need to dissolve the Department of Education, give it back to the states and Texas will be number one baby, phone finger. You know, Texas is one of the states along with a lot of the states that is like they always bitch about California doing this with the Texas California's Johnny come lately when it comes to not telling the parents that your kids trans is going trans Yeah, Texas is one of those states really yep. Yeah, well, how does that work? I don't know I don't know I was not aware how you get Jasmine Crockett